Trans Sexualities is a blog that is intended to address issues relating to sexuality that affect both transgender people and their partners, lovers and/or spouses. Human sexuality is complex enough and inextricably entangled with issues of gender already, but when someone takes a journey from one gender to another, they face even more difficulties when exploring their changing sexuality. Transpeople, as well as their partners, have their sexuality changed in a way that many cannot imagine.
This blog is part of a research project started by two trans women who have experienced some of these issues first hand, and saw a need for a comprehensive sexuality resource for trans people. Our goal is to produce a book, ostensibly with the same title. It is our hope that with this blog, we can engage trans people and their partners to share their stories with us. Nobody’s posts will be published in the book without permission, and no real names will be used.
Topics will range from dating and relationships, to dealing with sexual orientation, and covering various issues related to both pre/non-op and post-op sex. We will be discussing health and safety issues such as STIs and how trans people are specifically affected, and dealing with issues such as transsexual prostitution. We’ll be covering some of the more controversial issues in the trans community, such as autogynephilia, stealth dating and dealing with chasers/admirers.
Who is this site/book intended for?
Anyone who is transgendered, exploring their gender, or anyone who has a transgender person as a romantic/sexual partner and wants to learn more about how transition can affect their sexuality. This is a sex-positive resource, and we are quite candid when discussing potentially sensitive subjects, and encourage equally candid feedback in your comments.
Who are we?
We are two trans women, at different stages in our transitions, and at different stages in exploring our own sexuality. We are both active members of our local queer community, and have very sex-positive attitudes toward sex. We are both able to discuss sexuality and sex with directness and maturity, and without the hang-ups that plague much of society today.
Why are you writing this book?
There are a number of books that have been published that explore various issues regarding sexuality. Books on subjects such as masturbation, anal sex and dating & relationships are plentiful, as are books written on what it’s like to be transgendered. However, until recently, there haven’t been many books out that deal with specific topics on transgenderism (The Transgender Child is the best example of this, published only last year), and none that focus on the sexuality issues that inevitably come up for those who transition and their partners. Instead of waiting for someone else to publish one, we thought we’d take the initiative and write one ourselves.
What makes you so qualified to write this book?
There is nothing special about us that makes us more qualified to write this book than anyone else. Neither of us are doctors, nor sexologists. We are, however, two trans people who love sex and have strong connections to the trans community. We are drawing upon our own experiences through transition with sex and sexuality, as well as the experience of hundreds of other trans people that we have encountered during our research. That’s why this blog was created; we want to learn from trans people and partners of trans people from all over the world.
